You are not your environment, but in the same way that the environment affects you, you also affect the environment and the people around you, through your actions, words and feelings. So how can you use your actions, words and feelings to affect positively your interaction with others? Have you lived a similar experience before? And if so, what did you do at that time to solve the problem? Discover in an executive coaching session, what is missing and what solutions would fit your work style.

But in the meantime, let's see  what happens, when you apply the following:

• Write a list of your duties and see how you have accomplish it. If you do your job quite well, give yourself a treat. Be aware of the importance of what you do and your time. Give yourself recognition. But if you are not sure about how you are doing in your job, take executive coaching
• Do one task at a time, work mono tasking and enjoy every time you finish a task. Realising that you have completed a bunch tasks on your list is very rewarding. Executive coaching can provide you good methods to reward and motivate yourself.
• Do not think about the reasons not to work.Think about the reasons to work and why you need it, why you got this job and recall the good feelings of the first day at work.
• If nothing works, start looking for a new position. Set a goal about what you want to get. Write all the details of your dream job and work on your resume, make a job hunting plan and observe your motivation after knowing that you may get another job in the near future, while working in the actual one. It is always positive and you may notice also more joy in your current situation. Executive coaching can help you to find that out.

• Showing understanding, respect and consideration for others in a daily basis will help you to develop long lasting work relationships based on human values.
• Avoid gossips. Executive coaching can teach you excellent techniques to coach your colleges and help them to be out of gossiping
• Develop empathy. Practice on a daily bases exercise to develop empathy like, put in the shoes of the other.
• Write a list of your tasks to achieve for the day, for the week, for the month and check everyday what you have achieve.
• Stick to your goals and set a deadline for your each one.
• Schedule your meetings with colleges, write everything down and make clear your responsibilities.
• Start working an hour earlier and don't work after hours. You avoid interruptions and you can concentrate much better
• Check and answer your mail just once a day. Don't spend the whole day checking emails.
• Be organised.
• Participate at least twice a month in free time activities with people at work, like bowling, eating dinner or doing sport. 
• Practice a minute meditation several times a day. This practice helps you to manage stress, doesn't take time and is more effective than a long meditation once a day. Learn easy and effective stress mental management exercises with executive coaching.

Do what makes sense to you and try little steps, one after the other. You will see that at the end of the day, it makes a big difference. The more you practice good habits, the more effective you will work and the better you will feel. Our brain learn with repetition and routines. Practice is the key. By the way, get to try your free executive coaching session with successchoices.

Moving to any country can be very exiting, if you have a positive attitude. The best card to play here is the fact that you don't know anything about your future life. This allow you to build a filter in your awareness to see life through a better pair of glasses, you can start expecting good and positive things coming to you. If you are moving to Switzerland think about the beautiful Alps, the Lakes, the cities, the new job and expect to meet good people, helpful people. The more you focus on expecting to meet good people and live good experiences, the more you will filter your attention to these things. As a result, you will develop good resilience to help you facing the negative side of being a foreigner here. 

When you do not develop resilience, every new little challenge from the new environment may look like a tragedy, creating shock after shock while making you believe that living here is horrible. I experienced in my first year here, several  false heart attacks produced by anxiety and stress. 

Do not let your life get to this point and look for help. Do not consider local help to complain about how horrible your life is in their country. That would be a big mistake. Look for an expat who can really understand what you are living. 

Look for expatriates forums in the Internet to know about where to move, private vs public schools, language courses, expats communities, where to register and get your residence permit, where to get your swiss license, etc., All this information and more, can be found in English forums in the internet. Formal information in English about the Swiss system and Authorities can be found in www.ch.ch/en, http://www.movetoswitzerland.com, www.englishforum.ch, www.angloinfo.com, www.meetup.com

1.- Before you move to Switzerland, look for internet and telephone providers and fix an appointment to get that done before you move there, or at least, on the very same day when you are moving there. Check https://www.swisscom.ch/en/residential.html. It has a good service. But I had a very bad experience with Wasserwerkezug oder wwz.ch. It took them forever. We spent the first three weeks without Internet and telephone. After we got the Internet connexion, we realized that the transmission for down and upload files was so limited that you can not work with it. It was as if we were in the stone age of the Internet. So we changed to Swisscom and it was a huge difference. We felt, we came back to the present time again. Once you have got your Internet, everything will be much easier for you.

2.- Inquire in the English forums in Switzerland about foreigners friendly neighbourhoods. The people in the big cities like Zurich, Zug and Lucerne are very open minded and you will meet a lot of people speaking English in cafes, restaurants, shops and open places. There are many foreigners communities and groups that support each other and can help you with a lot of information and activities to do. 

I remember that my husband and I selected a list of several apartments in different neighbourhoods to check. The apartments were in Steinhausen and Rotkreux in Kanton Zug. They looked brand new and the rent was not so expensive, but not cheap either. After our first month of living in the new apartment, we experienced many not-foreigners-friendly situations. We moved after 10 months to a much better place and among expats. You may ask, but how could you know where to move? Let me tell you, you can find all the answers you are looking for nowadays in forums.

Don't get me wrong, we also met nice open minded people in our first place, but they were not a majority. My best neighbour was a Swiss lady named Ruth. She helped me a lot. I still keep in touch with her. She told me where to go, what to do and where to find what I needed. She was sad when we moved. I was very lucky and very thankful that I met her.

3.- As soon as you have moved, inquire how to get your Swiss license and your Ausländerausweiss (residence permit) in the Amt für Migration. In my case, I had to go to Zug, here is a link to help you with all the Info you need in English about the type of permits:
https://www.zg.ch/international/english/individuals/immigration/types-of-permit

4. If you have children, think about public schools vs private schools. If you are coming to Switzerland with the benefits of an expats contract, probably you will get covered the expenses of a private school for your children. That's perfect! If you have got a local contract, you may not get the private school included. It is very expensive in Switzerland. But if you can afford it, think about it. Otherwise, if you have a child in kindergarten age,  I recommend you to register him in a public school, in order for him to get adapted to the language and the culture. He will start having Swiss friends and making playdates with them will help him to be accepted and be integrated more easily. Public schools in Switzerland offer a good education and a lot of extra curricula activities. The richer the town is, the better resources in the school will be offered.

If your child is in primary school age, he or she may experience something a bit different about integration and social acceptance in Swiss public schools. Public schools in the city presents more foreigners than public schools in the suburbs where people are more conservative and not so foreigners friendly.  An option to improve integration is to register your child in the same extra curricula activities where the local children of his class go. For example, Fuss-ball Club, Turnen Vereign (Sport), Pfadi (Scouts Groups) , Ballett, Judo, Kung Fu, tennis, you name it. Manage for your child one up to two play dates per week with locals and be consistent, don't interrupt this routine. During the season holidays try to book at least one playdate before the classes start. So your child won't be excluded and will feel continuity in his relationship with his classmates. I have tried everything to help my children to feel happy here. Adaptation and integration is relative, but keeping integrity and identity is more important for a child in an foreign environment. Support your children no matter what. That is the best you can do. I have a happy child in a public school and a happy child in a private school.

5.- Get to start building your network with expats and locals. I have got very nice Swiss friends and you will get to know very nice Swiss people too. The more you focus on expecting to meet good people and live good experiences, the more you will filter your attention to these things. Keep being open and start learning to speak German. There are Swiss and German people here, who are looking for an interchange of conversation in different languages. So you get to speak German and they get to improve their English. Here are some Links that can help you:
https://www.spontacts.com/sprachen
http://www.meetup.com/de-DE/Let-s-talk-auf-DEUTSCH/
http://www.americanswelcome-expats.ch/community.php
http://forum.world.st/Stammtisch-Bern-Termin-td132223.html
Deutschen Stammtisch in Bern

I hope these tips can give you an idea about where and how to start your life here in Switzerland.

As I said at the beginning of this blog, developing a positive inner attitude will help you emotionally to enjoy this first phase of starting a new life here. But if you focus on every little challenge the new environment has to offer, it will only bring more stress and anxiety. Prepare from inside out and develop a life strategy to enjoy your new life and your new job in Switzerland. 

Take life coaching in Switzerland to cope with anxiety and manage stress. One session of life coaching will give you support not only during the adaptation phase but it will also provide you with easy and effective exercises to develop resilience and a positive attitude that will  help you to be able to count  the good things around you again. Check out my life coaching in Zurich,  Zug,  Lucerne or any other city in Switzerland

​SUCCESS CHOICES is much more than life coaching in Switzerland.  SUCCESSCHOICES understand where you are and will go along with you to help you discover your new environment and   will support you in your new life and work. 

From the moment a client decides to take a life coaching or an executive coaching session, he already has some expectations about the session and about the coach. 

In my experience I have had to learn how to answer to some questions that are important to develop trust and connection in a life coaching or executive coaching session with my clients. These experiences may help other coaches to see that they are not alone in these awkward moments that we can use to give us the chance to learn from our clients, their questions and their challenges. But before I continue with this topic, I want to say that every coach may have his/her own answers that fits them better. The following answers just work better for me. There are neither right nor wrong answers. There are only honest Inputs with value that bring trust and connection, in order to let the coaching session happen. Here they are:

1.- What is Coaching?
Answer: Coaching is a conversation between a client and a coach about an important theme or situation that the client wants to solve, a change the client wants to make, or a goal to achieve. In this conversation the coach listen and ask questions to identify skills, personal strengths, success strategies and other helpful tools of the client that he/she might not be aware of.

2.- So, are you an expert and do you give any advice?
Answer: The client is the real expert in his/her life and I do not give any advice. The coach and the client will work together to find out the solution and success strategies that have worked good for the client before. These strategies are with in. They will work with practical methods to find clarity, to focus on what the client wants to achieve and they will set together all the resources they have found out to develop an inner attitude that supports the client all the way long to his goal. 

3.- Are you a psychiatrist, a psychologist? What is the difference between them and a coach?
Answer: Neither a psychiatrist nor a psychologist. I am a certified coach in different areas.
A psychiatrist is a medical doctor who specializes in mental health and can prescribe medications to help a treatment. They work with patients. Therapy can take years.
A psychologist is not able to write prescriptions, but helps people with emotional and psychological difficulties. The psychologist may work with patients and clients. Therapy can take years.
A life coach and an  executive coach work mostly with sane people who might be having trouble in a personal situation or simply want to make a big change in their lives or in their career. So they need a solution that fits and work for them. The solution lies with the client, not with the coach. The coach helps the client to rediscover his resources in order to solve a problem or reach a goal. Therapy takes from one to three sessions, sometimes longer, but it never lasts years.

4.- How many sessions do you work with a client?
Answer: In life coaching a therapy may lasts from 1 up to 3 sessions. In executive coaching I have worked with clients from 1 up to 3 sessions, or up to 16 sessions when a client is job-hunting. We work together until the client finds one or more job opportunities.

5.- How much does a coaching session cost with you?
Answer: The first session is free and after that it cost 80 CHF per hour.

6.- Where have you learned coaching?
Answer: In the las six years I have been learning coaching in USA, Switzerland and in Germany with different coaching schools and I have had the opportunity to compare different coaching methods. There are some methods more effective than others and that is the case of the Integrated Solution Focused Psychology -ISOP- or the Integrierte Lösungsorientierte Psychologie -ILP- from Dr. Dietmar Friedmann. He founded the ILP Schule in Germany, Austria and Switzerland. I have been learning every year a new method from Dr. Friedman. His methods involve Coaching and Psychotherapy and they work in term of a short therapy. SUCCESSCHOICES offers the basic and the professional level of life coaching training in English in Zug, Switzerland.